Finding yourself in
charge of funeral arrangements can be a daunting task,
especially during a time of grief. It can be difficult to
think about practical matters when a close friend or family
member has passed away. We've made this practical list to
help you navigate this often unfamiliar and emotionally
fraught terrain more easily.
1. Choose a funeral home
The first step in making funeral arrangements is to choose a funeral home to care for your loved oneís remains before, during and after the funeral. Choosing a funeral home can be a difficult decision in a time of grief. If possible, choose a funeral home that has cared well for other friends or family members in the past. A good funeral home can assist you with many of the other tasks that you will need to complete, making sure you donít forget any important details.
2. Write an obituary
To develop ideas for writing an obituary, start with accomplishments that your loved one was proud of during his or her life. Include marriage, important or latest employment, clubs and organizations that were a big part of his life, and other details that were important to your loved one. Also list close family members, including those that have preceded your loved one in death and those that have been left behind. Go through examples of previous obituaries for inspiration if you need it.
3. Choose stationery
Funeral arrangements include
memorial cards, service literature and thank you cards. Many packages are available, and your funeral home may have selections for you to choose from.
4. Select flower arrangements
Again, your funeral home director can assist you with choosing flower arrangements. Keep in mind that you will probably want flowers on the casket during the funeral, stands of flowers beside the coffin or pictures of your deceased loved one, and flowers at the burial site.
5. Choose people to participate in funeral service
A funeral service offers the chance for close friends and family members to say goodbye and help their deceased loved one pass out of this world in the most dignified way possible. To that end, many people may want to speak of memories they have of the deceased, offer religious passages, sing at the service or carry the casket from the service to be interred at the burial site. Choosing who is able to participate can be a sensitive topic, but use your best judgment as to who would best serve your loved oneís memory.